Handling Personal Crisis Moments

Everyone in this world goes through rough patches where it would break our lives into a number of pieces we never thought it would break and at a time like that most of us would want to bury ourselves in a dark room filled with loneliness and weep the abyss out of us. It is indeed hard to come out of our shell and serve even a plate full of food which is needed for the day. Anger, Stress, Depression would creep into us and things get eventually worst when the solutions for the problems are far away from us or when we don't even see the light at the end of the tunnel. The strength of the relationships with our loved ones gets thinner and thinner every passing day. These struggles are not easy.  Their sorrows can take deep root in our brain and result in many mental and physical instabilities.

So are these struggles worth it? Would it make any sense in our lives in the long run? When you're faced with a calamity all you have to do it to PAUSE. Yes, you have to pause to understand what's going on in your life. And why it is happening. Take your own time to embrace the absolute truth in your life.

I know it is easier said than done but let me tell you, start PONDERING. Is this worry or sorrow going to make any sense to you after five years? Would you get benefited if you keep on worrying? Are you doing justice to your loved ones by being a worry-a-woman or a worry-a-man? Once you're finally out of your problems, will you have anything left? Your health, beauty, relationships? Ask questions of REALIZATION at a time of your hardship. 

"Indeed, after hardship, there is ease" (Al-Quran 94:6)

Believe in this divine promise of thy Lord. He will surely grant you ease after all the hardship you are going through.

PRAY – when you're overwhelmed by all your worldly hardship, bow down your head to your Lord in complete submission. Feel the pleasure of SUJOOD. When you whisper down to earth and it is heard up in the heaven directly to your Lord. How does it feel to know all your pleas are heard by the only one who can provide you a solution for all the troubles you're in? In Sujood you find the best love story. You go down to earth with tears and sorrows which has filled your life and you when you raise your head you feel peace, all your sorrows are taken care by your Creator. Trust me, this love story is really addictive.

O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient" (Al-Quran 2:153)

BELIEVE – aren't you breathing despite the hardship in your life? Then believe me, you are capable of handling the crisis you're in. You're braver than you thought you are. Reflect on past events in your life. Where you thought you won't be able to make it through. But eventually you got out of the situation with grace. Over a period of time you have faced many unthinkable events in life and you have come out of it. So believe you will be able to navigate through what you're in now as well. Believe in your abilities. You are stronger than you seems to be. Awake the sleeping cub inside you. You will discover a whole new person in you. And more importantly believe in your Lord. It is Allah who planned your life the way it is now. Do you think you can plan better than Allah, the Almighty? Nah! It is Allah who wanted this situation to arise and believe it has a good in it. Allah wanted to happen what's happening in your life for a better reason. Believe His plans will work better than yours and believe in the prayers you have asked him. He will come to your aid.

"But they plan and Allah plans and Allah is the best of planners" (8:30)

SHIFT YOUR MINDSET – don't dwell on the negativity. Move away from what's worrying you. Start doing the things you love to do. Go for a walk, Do workouts, drink that coffee, cook your favorite meal, read that book pending for so long, take that vacation you didn't take for so long. Write that story which is piling up on you. Wash that mountain of laundries you didn't do for weeks, plant some flowers in your garden which the fragrance would make you calm, visit an old friend and start talking about the good old times you'll had. Change your routine of worrying. When you shift your mindset from the regular worries, you will be able to come out of the trauma you're in. you can see the sky clearly without clouds.

REALIZE worrying would make no change in your life. Realize that being strong is the only option left for you. Either you make it or break it. Either you be strong and take actions to solve your problems or do nothing about it and waste yours and your loved one's lives. Scares would remain. But trust me, you will heal. You will eventually learn to live with those scars.

Know that life has to go on no matter what happens to us. Bloom out of the crisis or burn from the crisis. CHOICE is YOURS.